Happily Single?

It’s been an absolute hectic few months since returning back from our honeymoon, which has led to meeting a lot of new interesting and different people. It’s become quite the norm these days to ask questions such as relationship status when you’re getting to know someone. Sometimes you don’t even need to ask, people with partners will start talking about them even if you don’t ask (can get too much at times).

I’ve come across lots of singles saying that they are “happily single”. Which makes me wonder, is that a statement? Or is it something that makes them feel better? Are you trying to convince me or yourself by saying it out loud?

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I am not doubting that someone could actually be happier by themselves and enjoy the single lifestyle, but at the same time isn’t everyone seeking for love, that someone special?

The single life is often viewed as negative, but is it really? Living single symbolises freedom, independence and untapped potential for growth. The most obvious stigma attached to the single life is that one ominous word ‘alone.’  Singles do most things alone, and even though you don’t have to feel lonely in the process, you do. You could either learn how to take what you have and use it to make a happy, successful life on your own or find someone to build a life together.

I have had friends in the past that have been lining up the their dates, one after the other, 2 to 3 dates on the same day, meeting up with all these new guys or girls they got to know on some online dating site, and each time they would get disappointed they’d say they give up, they are happy to be single and they will just have fun with being single. Yet, on our next chat their minds have changed again, and it is all because of feeling lonely.

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In saying that, it doesn’t mean people in relationships are with someone just so they don’t feel lonely. There is way more to it than just that, which I will explain further below.

So, happily single? What is happily single? Our species aren’t designed to be happily single. We go in duos, whether we like it or not. Everyone wants to be loved by another person, someone we can call our lover, best friend and companion, share absolutely everything with. Sharing your life with someone else, always being together, if not in person, then at least in mind and sharing each other’s pain, but also happiness of course.

Do you ever wonder what draws so many people into a relationship? I sure do. Why are so many people having the urge to have that one special person in their lives? Most would agree it is to share feelings and ideas with someone who truly cares, who doesn’t judge you, who wishes the best for you and tries to help you. It feels normal, right? But, could it just be some old fashioned unwritten society rule classified as normal? woman-565104_1920

Here is a number of things why most people prefer to be in a relationship:

  • You have someone to come home to, cook and dine with, spend the rest of the evening snuggled up with, watching Netflix movies/shows. Who wouldn’t love that?
  • Having someone to talk to and opening up to not only in good times but also tough times. There is nothing like a supportive, understanding and caring partner that would do anything to cheer you up in tough times.
  • You have someone to help you with the ‘To-Do’ list (household duties/chores). Having someone to share a To-Do list, makes life so much easier for both.
  • You don’t feel awkward at social events where there’s always happy couples and feel like you can’t relate.
  • When single, you don’t have anyone checking up on you if you’re working late or taking care of you when you’re feeling sick. Even though the thought of having no one to report to could be quite satisfying, at times it can make you feel as if ‘nobody cares’ (which is not true). We all want a little attention of some sort.
  • You have someone to be spontaneous with. Even if all your friends are busy doing something else, or having a party they forgot to invite you to, you simply don’t care as you have your partner and you two could do something just as fun. This can be so much more satisfying than being with a large group of people.
  • You have someone to focus your love and adoration upon. Somehow, when people are in relationships they change. Most cases for the best. When in a relationship, we tend to push one another, which makes us become more motivated, more ambitious and we constantly seek for self-improvement in order to succeed not only for individual satisfaction, but also to make our partners proud. 

In general, relationships can be emotionally more fulfilling. They offer comfort and companionship, physical intimacy, individual growth, consideration, a sense of fun, playfulness and adventure. But, is that enough to be happy?

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People are waiting longer than ever to get married, many choosing not to get married at all, and others ending up single later in life due to divorce or widowhood, there are more single people than ever. Research has suggested people that are in relationships are happier than singles, but it’s not clear if relationships is what actually makes people happy.

As with most things, there is unlikely to be a one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to relationships and happiness. On the one hand, a partner can offer valuable social support and help you combat loneliness. On the other hand, relationships can come with conflicts and disappointments that make people less happy. So it is quite reasonable to assume that relationships can make some people happier, while other people may be better off remaining single.

Even though most people out there seek for love and happiness, it doesn’t necessarily mean that a relationship will make you happier. In the end, it all depends on the person you are and finding that right match for you in order to really succeed.

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So, what makes YOU really happy? Do you think being in a relationship makes you a better person? Or do you enjoy being on your own?

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24 Comments

  1. May 17, 2017 / 10:51 PM

    I would say I am happily single, not because I enjoy being single, but I am not in a relationship that I am not happy with. I get to do a lot of things that I maybe wouldn’t have time to in a relationship, such as travel to the destinations that have always interested me. I do see a lot of people just used to being together and they don’t look they are having fun, as if something has burned out. There are also lots of people I see who have great relationships and I guess I am waiting for the person that makes me never want to be single again. You could argue that we are a species that is meant to be with a partner, you could also say that we are a species that is not meant to be with just one person, as one of our main goals as humans is to breed and pass our genetics onto the next person from an evolutionary standpoint. This explains the desire for so many to cheat, divorce and sign up to websites such as Ashley Maddison I guess…

    • May 17, 2017 / 11:06 PM

      Hi Sam,
      Thank you for your feedback. Very interesting and valid points you’ve made. Not two people are the same so definitely this is a bit of controversial topic. I guess you could say some are luckier than others to find that one person that’s loyal and have a long lasting happy relationship. It’s not as common as it used to be till the early 60s , so it’s nice when it happens these days. As many campaigns that have been going around say “back in the day they used to fix what was broken and not throw it away “… but again as you said yourself we all want that right person for us . Xx ☺️☺️

      • May 17, 2017 / 11:14 PM

        ‘Back in the day they used to fix what was broken and not throw it away’ I like that. I guess today with all the technology and faster pace of society we look to end things more than spending time making it work. A shame.

        • May 18, 2017 / 8:53 AM

          Yep… a total shame. Not everything is improving unfortunately…

  2. Amanda
    May 17, 2017 / 11:41 PM

    I have just recently come out of a long term relationship. Things didn’t work out and even though now it feels like we wasted all these years together, all we would have achieved would have been another few very unhappy years …. I am most definitely not happy being single. Being with someone feels like you have your whole world figured out and feels secure in your little bubble. I find myself being a way better person in a relationship and I hope there is still hope for me to find someone to spend my life with …

    P.S. I love your blog!

    • May 18, 2017 / 8:54 AM

      Aww . I’m sorry to hear Amanda. I hope you’re happier though 🙂
      I’m sure you’ll find the right person for you ☺️☺️💕😘😘

  3. Sean McKinnon
    May 17, 2017 / 11:46 PM

    On point !! 👌🏻👌🏻

    • May 18, 2017 / 8:54 AM

      Thank you Sean ☺️☺️

    • May 18, 2017 / 8:55 AM

      Thank you lovely ☺️💕

  4. May 18, 2017 / 4:10 PM

    you are right relationships don’t necessarily make one happy. you’re a beautiful person, the only person that knows you best is you. Some days its a plus others a minus, all in all love yourself for the before others, all aspect of life and relationship will improve. Keep on inspiring…

    • May 18, 2017 / 4:33 PM

      That’s beautiful Susan ! thank you <3 xx

  5. Cris Reyes
    May 19, 2017 / 4:21 PM

    I’m myself is single. About being happy being single, yes i am happy but sometimes i’m still looking for being in a relationship and i’m inlove in just 1 person since grade school till now i’m 27 still a single cause of onw girl. That girl is also still a single but she had been to many relations. I know that she likes me since grade school and i hoping that up to now that she still likes me. I just want to settle things first on my family and have my job that i can support a life of being in a relationship. I’m hoping that things will go the way i’m seeing/drawing ut on my mind. That’s all and thank you for this beautiful blog Eirini

    • May 19, 2017 / 5:20 PM

      That’s lovely Cris,

      Hope things go your way. Best of luck 🙂

      Thank you so much <3 xx

  6. May 20, 2017 / 12:58 PM

    I am happily single as I like the freedom and all the me time.

    • May 20, 2017 / 1:03 PM

      💕haha . I can’t remember what me time is like anymore 😂😂
      Thanks for sharing 😘😘

  7. May 28, 2017 / 1:23 AM

    Thanks for following my blog, which is much appreciated.
    I have been married three times, so obviously vote for marriage!
    Best wishes, Pete.

    • May 28, 2017 / 10:23 AM

      Thank you Pete xx

  8. May 29, 2017 / 7:02 PM

    I think it all depends on the person you are having (or had) relationships with. Some relationships make you a better person and some make you miserable and lonlier than ever till you get happily single…

    • May 31, 2017 / 7:29 PM

      Thank you for the feedback ☺️

      That is so true 👌🏻

  9. June 3, 2017 / 12:37 PM

    Wow… totally in love with your writing.. Great post.

    • June 3, 2017 / 12:48 PM

      Thank you so much :)))

  10. June 4, 2017 / 5:58 AM

    Thanks for sharing a slice of your life and congratulations!

    • June 4, 2017 / 9:08 AM

      ♥️☺️☺️

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